Adoption is a major life decision for the birth and adoptive families. It generally requires considerable thought by both sides before they can confidently make the move to formally pursue an adoption.
Unfortunately, there are many misconceptions that surround adoptions. They can sometimes steer birth parents and adoptive parents away from adoption, even though – in reality – adoption would be a great option given their circumstances.
Misconception #1: Adoption means giving up all contact with the child
One common misconception is that birth parents must completely sever ties with their child after adoption. In reality, closed adoptions that sever ties are far less frequent now than they were in the past. Much more common now open or semi-open adoptions that result in varying degrees of contact between the birth and adoptive families. These arrangements can include regular updates, letters, or even visits, depending on what’s agreed upon by all parties.
Misconception #2: Only married couples can adopt
Another misconception is that adoptive parents have to be a married couple. In fact, adoption is open to a wide range of individuals, including single people, unmarried couples and same-sex couples. Agencies and courts typically focus on the best interests of the child, looking at the stability and suitability of the prospective adoptive parents rather than their marital status.
Misconception #3: Birth parents can take back the child after adoption
A common fear among adoptive parents is that birth parents can come back and say they want a child back after an adoption is finalized. However, once the legal process is completed and parental rights are terminated, the adoption is permanent.
Misconception #4: Adoption is the same as foster care
Some people confuse adoption with foster care, but they are distinct processes. Foster care is typically a temporary arrangement wherein a child is placed with a family while awaiting reunification with their birth parents or adoption. Adoption permanently transfers parental rights to the adoptive parents when it’s finalized.
Both birth and adoptive parents need to ensure they understand everything involved before they embark on an adoption. Working with a legal representative who can provide them with information and help them throughout the process can be beneficial accordingly.